SLOW LOGIC/FAST LOGIC

Slow logic is taught throughout our educational system: Go from A to B to C to D – all the way to Z, and then decide. Seems reasonable, even smart. But all of us also have a well-flexed internal ability that I call fast logic, which suggests we have the capacity to go from A[…]

DECISIONS AND CURVED SPACE

Because we are attached to outcomes, many decisions seem to be emotionally weighty for us. Suppose I make the wrong move? Suppose I don’t get what I want? Suppose someone judges me? According to the theory of curved space, if you could split an atom and send each half in the opposite direction from the[…]

Health and Healing: Exceptionality of One

HEALTH AND HEALING, THE EXCEPTIONALITY OF “ONE:” That’s you; that’s me. The data suggests certain illnesses can’t be reversed, that memory erodes as you age, that “addictions” are hard to break. Science, medicine, psychology, and sociology study what happens for most people and draw conclusions, often dismissing the exceptions. For 40 years, we’ve been champions[…]

LITTLE BOY BLUE

Blue…mood? Blue…color of strength? Blue…sad? The sky? The the world? What was your very, very first thought when you read those first three words (Little Boy Blue)? Your very first thought! It’s beyond useful to pause and figure this out – it will tell you about the way you initially choose to frame your world.[…]

UPHILL IS DOWNHILL

  UPHILL IS DOWNHILL when you know where you want to go.   Take this lake. It took hours of hiking, much of it uphill, to reach this destination. Although we had been here previously, many decades ago, after scrambling up the side of this mountain (with young children in tow) on narrow hiking paths,[…]

WHAT THEY SAID, WHAT WE BELIEVED.

THEY said: He has Autism. We might be able to train him to do some simple self-help skills. WE said: We want to show him a love he can understand. THEY said: We might be able to teach him to listen to simple instructions and respond appropriately. WE said: We want to create a relationship of[…]

CHILDREN, NOT OF MY BLOOD BUT OF MY HEART

I held them gently for a moment in time. Click. Two of my six children: one who had barely survived his birth father slitting his throat, then spent years in an orphanage; the other who had been malnourished and starved. Click. Children of extreme trauma. Adrift, abandoned. Children who faced limited, even dismal, futures. When[…]

MULTI-TASKING: ILLUSION WITH A SOLUTION

Some of us think we can do two or three different activities at a time. Actually, we flip-flop our attention: Four seconds on the phone, three seconds for my child, then back to the phone. Nothing (that’s ZERO) gets my full, continuous attention or expertise. Result: Accidents/obesity/colossal errors/diminished relationships. Simple remedy: Focus fully on one thing at[…]

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