What a crazy thing to say, you may think. But let’s look at the choices. We could say, “This is horrible”; “This is bad for me”; “This will ruin my life”. Or we can see this – and anything else that arrives at our doorstep – as an opportunity and a way for us to recreate a new roadway to actually MORE of what we want… rather than less.
These are only beliefs which we can choose. But if we choose the “This is horrible!” belief, we are left with a lost, scared, and perhaps hopeless feeling. If we decide this will be good for us (a belief we can choose) and we see it as perfect for ourselves (even if we don’t yet know how it’s perfect), we feel a sense of adventure, no fear, and definitely a hopeful perspective about the future.
Do you know anyone that has viewed a situation that most would call “bad” (e.g. a child that is born with challenges, a loss of a loved one, a marriage that has ended) as an opportunity instead of a tragedy? This just shows us that, if one person has believed it, we all have the possibility to believe it. In essence, “Happiness Is A Choice” (see book by “Bears” Barry Neil Kaufman) – and for me, it sure beats misery!
In these times of possible job loss, we will be in a much more proactive, powerful and effective position to take care of ourselves if we believe that whatever is happening is perfect for us than if we believe it’s bad for us. We have lots more energy and feel much more motivated toward action and achievement when we feel good about ourselves and trusting that we’ll be fine. This is a time for self-improvement and perhaps the first chance you’ve had in a long time to reflect on yourself and your life, and consider options you haven’t allowed yourself to entertain.
Losing your job could be the next unforeseen gift in your life… if you believe it’s perfect for you.
From Samahria Lyte Kaufman (Co-Founder the Option Institute®)